Julie would rather not have sex any more during her pregnancy. She is having concerns with harming her baby and is concerned that this may hurt her husband’s feelings.
“I am almost 5 months pregnant and I have lost my desire to have sex. Until recently, I enjoyed the intimacy even with the few extra pounds. I am hesitant to have sex now for a number of reasons. My main concern is the possibility of hurting the baby or even miscarrying. I’m not even certain this can happen while having sex but if there is the slightest chance, I don’t want to risk it. I also find that the bigger I become, it’s no longer comfortable for me to and to top it all off I am really starting to feel unattractive. In all honesty, these days I would much rather sleep than have a romp in the sheets. I certainly, at this point, can wait to have sex again until after the baby is born. I also have been feeling a bit guilty because my husband still wants to have sex and I’m afraid to tell him how I am feeling. He might think I am making excuses or even take my lack of desire personally. There has been a bit of a strain on our relationship lately and I just don’t want to make matters worse. Surely I can’t be the only expectant mum that has felt this way. I would so appreciate some advice on the best way to approach my husband and wish someone could just tell me it’s ok and normal to be feeling this way”
Do Julie’s concerns sound familiar? Did you feel you could hurt your baby or miscarry while having sex? Can you give her advice on how to approach her husband and make him understand that her lack of desire is only temporary and she is not the only expectant mum that feels this way. Although sex can be a very personal subject, if you could share your experiences we are certain it would help mums like Julie to know they are not alone.
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